Shorty. Sweetie. Sweetheart. Baby. Boo. If youâre a woman, youâve probably heard it.
If you were to respond, what would you say
Last fall, Tatyana Fazlalizadehbegan replying â" through her art â" to the dozens of men who approached her in public each week. As night fell, she slipped out of her Bedford-Stuyvesant apartment armed with a bottle of wheat paste, a couple of posters and a paintbrush, and began to pepper Brooklyn with messages:
âMy name is not baby.â âWomen are not seeking your validation.â âStop telling women to smile.â
Since September, Ms. Fazlalizadeh has plastered walls in Bedford-Stuyvesant, Bushwick, Clinton Hill and Williamsburg. As winter came and night temperatures dropped, though, she retired her paintbrush. âThe wheat paste starts to freeze before it actually dries,â she said. âSo the paper wasnât holding.â
But as slightly warmer weather has returned, so have the messages. She recently tossed up two posters on the corner of Tompkins Avenue and Halsey Street in Bedford-Stuyvesant. And Ms. Fazlalizadeh, 27, an Oklahoma-born oil painter, illustrator and after-school ! art teacher, was headed back out Friday night. âIâd like them to be out in Manhattan somewhere,â she said.
The project grew out of a desire to explain that for many women, âhey sweetumsâ or âletâs see that smileâ isnât a compliment. âThese things make you feel like your body isnât yours,â she said.
Of course, her target audience may still need convincing. On Friday afternoon, Andrés Carlos, 50, stood by the freshly pasted posters on Tompkins Avenue. âA woman likes nothing more than being told she is beautiful,â he said. âFor me, this is ridiculous.â
A friend of his, Richard Johnson, 29, passed by. Mr. Johnson is married, and no longer calls at women on the street. But he did his share of aggressive flirtation. Did women respond negatively âSometimes,â he said. Did he stop âNo,â he said. âIâm persistent.â