Dear Diary:
Hotel Edison Delicatessen. A cold night in 1981.
Having grown weary of the universityâs cafeteria in the few months since arriving in Manhattan, I was suddenly seized with an intense homesickness. I thought of the college friends Iâd left behind in Kentucky and how weâd spent many boisterous hours in the deliâs booths after âSweeney Toddâ and other performances on our visit in January 1980.
That short week was enough to convince me that the city was my home and where I would make a life. Now I wasnât sure I could stay. But I took the subway up to a nearly deserted Times Square. (Yes, it was often empty in those days.) I was surprised to find âourâ waitress still leaning against the grill and she remembered me â" or, kindly, said she did. She asked if Iâd come back for good. I told her I thought so.
She took away my menu when she discovered Iâd never eaten a New York bagel and brought me one toasted with butter. At first, she didnât notice as I folded a napkin in my lap, but she watched with growing incredulity as I picked up my knife and fork. After I cut the first careful bite, she shook her head, removed the utensils from my hands and placed them on the counter.
Without saying a word, she picked up my bagel and took a tear out of it with her teeth, looking at me as she chewed. She dropped it back on the plate and, without missing a beat, said: âYouâre gonna live here? Ya need to know how to eat a bagel. Thatâs how ya eat a bagel.â
I decided to stay.
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